You may love the idea of setting New Year resolutions but find that fatigue, flare-ups or life generally gets in the way, and you end up being more dispirited than when you started out. This year why not approach it differently by making small efforts throughout the year.
The New Year is a wonderful opportunity to look forward with positive energy and lay out what you would like that year to bring you. There is no doubt that when you are more positive and set clear goals, you do actually achieve more. Studies have shown that people who set goals achieve more are less stressed, less anxious and more content with life generally. When we make a mental pledge to ourselves to do or achieve something (no matter how big or small) we DO feel a sense of achievement in achieving it. This feel good sensation can be re-experienced by acknowledging the success to yourself and others.
You can make your goals your blueprint for your life. You should decide what you want (your goals) and then work out a plan as to how you intend to achieve them. The goals should be challenging and yet realistic.
Goals can come from many areas of our lives but to simplify these we can put them into 3 areas of focus: personal goals; ‘thing’ goals; and economic goals. You might want to learn a new skill, get healthier, lose weight, learn to swim, conquer a fear, climb a specific mountain, visit your family more, be a better friend, write a book, improve your memory, get a specific job, study a specific course or pass those exams. Whatever they are, make them as specific as possible, and try to include a timeline by when you would like to have completed them which will give them some impetus.
So now the goals are set, what can we do to help us achieve them? Something that is actually very helpful is to write down your goals (with measures and timeline where possible e.g. I will lose 2lbs by the end of March). Putting them in writing is a way of making them ‘real’ and gives you that feeling of making a ‘contract’ with yourself. The important thing is to make yourself accountable and do not blame others if you do not succeed. The most important thing is to decide what you want to do, and break out step-by-step how you intend to achieve it. In reality, there may be obstacles in your way before you get there so we need to accept that it may not always be plain sailing. When a bad day, fatigue or a flare-up causes a setback, then consider it just that – a setback, not a roadblock. Best laid plans will always be scuppered, but the real test is how we respond when things go wrong and how we choose to respond. To achieve important goals that we value and that are important we must accept it will involve a journey for us and we need to appreciate each step of that journey. So no matter how long the setback, try not to turn it into a roadblock!
The biggest obstacle to achieving your goals can be yourself. Begin by being positive, believing in yourself and accepting that anything is possible. As Henry Ford says “If you believe you can or you can’t, you’re probably right!” Your results are predictable, if you believe you can do it you will, but if you believe and keep telling yourself you can’t, you certainly won’t. Feed your positive self, not your negative one. Then the impossible becomes possible. Be specific in what you want and turn your desires, dreams and ambitions into goals. Be willing to challenge yourself, be determined and don’t give up. Michael Jordan once admitted that he missed more than 9000 shots, lost over 300 games and on 26 occasions he was trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. He said, “I failed and failed over and over and over again in my life … and that is why I succeed”.
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again but next time, do it differently or better and achieve your goal. It’s worth it, and so are you. Above all keep positive and believe in yourself…..and of course, DO make those New Year resolutions and go for it with great determination.
Remember Dreams can be goals with deadlines!
Top Tips for New Year resolutions.
- Set Realistic goals.
- Focus on your goals.
- Take your desires seriously.
- Have a plan of action…plan A, plan B, plan C you will probably need them all.
- Believe in yourself, have your own positive mantra.
- Take courage, challenge yourself.
- Be determined, don’t give up.
- Don’t give up, persist, and take one step at a time.
- Feel the fear and do it anyway.
- Make yourself accountable to yourself or others.
- Acknowledge each step achieved.
- And Finally….. CELEBRATE YOUR SUCCESS!