Sally Borst, blogger and “Galloping Grandma”, shares with us her account of “Coping with stress and pain.” (Sally lives with severe rheumatoid arthritis, plus osteoarthritis).
Having been blogging now for a few months and reading all of your blogs out there, I am surprised at how many tell their own particular journey through Chronic Pain. Very few of them offer a way to cope. After all, if you have chronic pain like I do with my RA, then you have it, and it isn’t going to go away. You are stuck with it! So I thought I would devote this blog to what I have learned over the 16 years of my RA and pass my ideas over to you.
The first thing I would offer is LAUGHTER. A good giggle with a girlfriend, an amusing film, a funny thought that brings a smile. You will find that taking your mind off the pain eases it – even if it’s only for a short time.
The second thing is to GET UP and do something positive. Be it a swim (our nearest pool is over 40km away, so no good for me) or a walk outside, preferably in the countryside. Breathe in deeply ( I do this often as I am constantly out of breath !) and look around you at all of Nature’s beauties while trying not to trip up! I put on neoprene mittens and use these to grip a walking pole in each hand. These have the advantage of keeping your stance upright and allowing you to look around instead of looking at your feet! While my two feet were being operated on and I couldn’t walk for over two years, I had the use of a quingo (see a previous blog of mine) which allowed me to go outside and walk or even run the dogs. What a fantastic feeling that was after being shut inside the house for so long! Even a rainy day looked marvellous and made me forget my aches and pains!
Knowing that I faced immobility with my impending foot operations, I searched around for some hobby I could do and came up with PAINTING. I had painted 55 years ago at school, but not since then. I made enquiries and found out that a brilliant artist lived just about a mile from me and I asked her if she would teach me from scratch – and what fun we had (and still have)! A whole morning experimenting with all kinds of mediums and before much time had passed we became, and still are, best friends. I just love the time spent painting – it takes me to whole other place in my mind, away from chronic pain – so much so that I forget all about it for a whole morning at a time. Here is one of my efforts…..
On my May morning walk….. 2016
I spend most evenings WATCHING TELEVISION. Sitting in my chair with my feet up and enjoying whatever takes my fancy. My long suffering husband waits till I go to bed, which is usually quite early, and then puts on all his men-telly programmes!! Freeing your mind up from constantly thinking about the pain you are in, sets you free. If the pain is greater than the programme on telly, then I take to the shower or bath. I have a bath-knight which lowers and lifts me up and down into the water in our upstairs bathroom as I think it would take the fire brigade to get me out of our other triangular jacuzzi bath downstairs, though I still look at it longingly! Last time I actually tried it, I couldn’t get out, and poor Pat had to strip off and get in with me to lift me out! We had a good laugh over that…..!
I try to stay UNSTRESSED over as much as I can. With me, stress brings on an immediate sort of mini flare up of my RA. I start to feel immense fatigue and full-on pain. For this, I GO AND LIE DOWN, put the radio on to Radio 4 and try counting backwards from 100 – or 200 !! This is really hard to do and makes me concentrate on other things, and I actually can get the mini flare-up to subside, just by counting backwards! There are times when I have to take pain-killers, but I try to do without them as we can all do without constipation that they bring along for the ride!
To sum up, over the years I have learned to control some of my chronic pain with my mind and finding other things to dwell on, and it really works. We are stuck with the pain, so let’s make the best of it and certainly love life and all the marvellous things it offers. Experiment with new horizons and keep moving forward in whatever manner you can!
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